External validation is a hell of a drug.
Aren’t most people like the husband though? Most people don’t bother with certs or courses and are perfectly happy that way.
There is indeed “so much to unpack and learn from an exchange like this.” Unfortunately I don’t think she’s going to learn it.
I guess that depends on whether or not those questions at the end are rhetorical.
Yeah it really seems like her takeaway isn’t “My husband is a loser for not constantly getting certs” but rather “Maybe my drive to get these certs is a symptom of insecurity”.
Everyone! She is saying that she is jealous that her husband is content and she is trying so hard and unhappy. She isn’t shaming her husband. She is questioning herself.
If you honestly think this isn’t humblebragging, you need to reevaluate your position in life. Imagine if this was a man posting about his wife…
From linkedin, we can always assume it is humblebragging. But her line makes me wonder: “Specifically - Whats standing in the way of my ability to be content without conventional markers of accomplishment?” It could be the classic “oh i there is so much i have to learn because i have so much linkedin-self-awareness” Tartas has a point. She isnt shaming her husband.
How dare he be content with his life.
Most of the post is about her, and how she wants to be like him.
That’s the read I got from it too. She asks what’s keeping her from being content with life without conventional markers of accomplishment. I don’t think she says outright that she wants to be like her husband, but the point she’s making is that women in tech feel more driven to accomplish things as a way to prove themselves in the industry while men don’t feel that same pressure or not to the same extent.
