They shouldn’t be able to do that!

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    9 days ago

    Engagement is a two-way street. By blocking them you have stopped engaging with them.

    The fact that you’re upset by what other people are doing somewhere that you can’t see and that doesn’t affect you seems like a you problem, frankly. Just forget about them.

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      This isn’t about me, this is about what people from persecuted minorities have told me they need, when I bought this exact argument to them.

      I used to say what you’re saying them they described to be the harassment that they face

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        This isn’t about me, this is about what people from persecuted minorities have told me they need, when I bought this exact argument to them.

        The same arguments apply, though.

        Your version of blocking doesn’t exactly handle the problem you’re describing well, either, as someone wishing to spread hate or “off-screen harassment” can block their direct target which, under the model, will mean they can’t see it, and then post.

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          To use a bit of hyperbole and a physical metaphor:

          I can let them burn my effigy in my front yard, or I can force them to go burn it in their own neighborhood.
          They’re still burning the effigy and littering, but at least it’s not outside my front door, scaring away all the people who come to visit me.

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        Ah… Would reporting them rather than blocking be more appropriate, then? I recognize reporting isn’t always effective, but the right answer seems to be getting the community to police it rather than hiding your commentary from them.

        And I recognize I’m speaking from a dearth of experience, here - this isn’t something I’ve dealt with, so I’m genuinely asking!

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          I’m generally trying to go off of a conversation I had with someone 2 years ago in lemmy. I was generally of the opposite opinion to my current stance, and they explained how the current “everything is public, dont even try to hide it from people” stance is problematic to persecuted minorities. It was 2 years ago so I’m a bit fuzzy on the details - I had to go look it up because someone didnt believe that the conversation even existed, but i didnt re-read the whole comment section.

          their point was that, while total privacy in a federated service is likely impossible, you want to make it non-trivial for harassers to do harassment.

          reporting is absolutely more appropriate than blocking, but blocking has a few advantages:

          1. its immediate, you dont need to wait for mods/admin.
          2. you don’t need to prove to an admin that something that the harasser said about you is actually a lie.
          3. mods/admins don’t need to be up-to-date on all the current dogwhistles
          4. it doesn’t need to actually affect the harasser beyond you. they dont need to get banned from the whole community or instance, unless the community or instance feels like they should be. its lower impact. This is important for lemmy communities that represent real communities, like classes or teams or neighborhoods.
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              Because they can spread lies about me that I can’t see, to people who come to engage with me.

              Not everyone is a stranger, you can have communities for real world groups.

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        9 days ago

        In that case substitute “they” for “you” in my comment. The meaning remains the same, as does my position.

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          Oh god, did Lemmy turn into a libertarian hellscape while I wasn’t looking?

          What are your opinions on community bans, since all your arguments apply equally to those. Let me see you rectify those positions.

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            When did an appreciation for free speech become the exclusive domain of the Libertarians? I don’t want you to be able to unilaterally silence me, therefore I’m a Libertarian?

            What are your opinions on community bans, since all your arguments apply equally to those. Let me see you rectify those positions.

            Community bans are the domain of a select few individuals who are responsible for maintaining the overall state of the community. If they abuse their power then the community suffers and people should go elsewhere.

            Personally, I’d rather a system where one could “subscribe” to specific moderators so that if one goes rogue people could choose to unsubscribe from their moderation actions, that would IMO be the best combination of freedom and control. But I can understand that being rather complicated to implement well and perhaps a little confusing for the users, so I’m okay with the current setup as a compromise.

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              How is “not letting you see what I personally wrote” consider to be “unilaterally silencing you” ?
              What a mind bogglingly disingenuous response.

              I’m not saying that the reddit style block is good.
              I’m saying that the current “mute” style block hangs vulnerable people out to dry.

              I’m ok trying something else, like maybe what you suggested.

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                So say someone is a raging bigot. You rely on regular users to flag up things that cross the line for moderators to deal with and correct the record when they lie or post stuff without context eg to provide a balanced perspective. Unless they have blocked most of the active users who would be liable to do these things.

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                  But isn’t the whole argument “that didn’t work on Reddit”? I see a lot of people saying that reddit style blocking created echo chambers because they’d simply block people they were taking about so they couldn’t defend themselves, but where were the mods there?

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            9 days ago

            You can’t stop other people from badmouthing you behind your back. That’s just life. Accept it and move on. Trying to censor people because you don’t like what they’re saying is peak liberal fascism.

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                The paradox of tolerance doesn’t mean what you think it means.

                The “paradox” is fully resolved if you have strong guarantees for the tolerance you care about: fundamental freedoms and equality, and punishments for those who attempt to subvert them. So you don’t “tolerate” people who are in the process of dismantling that tolerance by advocating for or engaging directly in harassment of trans people (for example) but you also don’t punish people who, for example, are opposed to trans women participating in womens’ sports - because while equal participation ought to be a guaranteed matter of equality, we’ve also broadly agreed as a society that sports ought to be split, and the precise nature of that split is not a guaranteed matter of equality.

                Applying this to Lemmy, there is no risk to tolerance in allowing a discussion about sex, gender and sports. There is a risk to tolerance in allowing a “discussion” in which trans people are generally disparaged on the basis of their transition, because it can lead to actions which go beyond mere speech.

                To look at this another way, rather than linking a wikipedia page with a dumb insult and saying “try learning something”, you’d be better off identifying the behaviour you don’t want to see, what action you want to take about it, and why it’s justified based on the consequences of not taking that action. “Tolerance” and “intolerance” are vague terms, so have a more productive discussion by being precise.

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                  The “you care about” is doing a lot of heavy lifting there.

                  And while you’re right, the guy is just a edgelord. Providing him with a nuanced and detailed take wasn’t going to do anything.

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                9 days ago

                lol ah the classic crybaby wannabe-fascist “paradox of tolerance” garbage. Just admit it, you can’t handle people who have different beliefs and opinions to your own because you can’t defend your own with any intelligence.

                Classic leftist.

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                  Ah, the actual fascist “nobody deserves to be safe” garbage. Just adjust it, you want to use your own personal freedoms as a cludge to undermine the rights of others.

                  Classic libertarian